I meet a lot of people who have dreams but never seem to be in an execution mindset.
I hear sentences like these:
‘I want to lose 5 kilos but…’
I want to save money for the vacation but…’
‘I want to learn baking but…’
I find that when these people talk about their dreams, their eyes light up. But as soon as they speak the word ‘but’, their brains stop being resourceful. There are no solutions, only obstacles.
We become the stories we tell ourselves. That’s why it’s important to tell yourself the right stories.
I imagine what would happen if these people said:
‘I want to lose 5 kilos so…’
‘I want to save money for the vacation so…’
‘I want to learn banking, so…’
The word ‘so’ makes the brain resourceful. It replaces lethargy with hope. It opens doors.
I call this the success algorithm. It involves a simple rewiring of our thoughts by just changing ‘but’ to ‘so.’
Try it. It’ll steer your mind towards solutions, not excuses. Sometimes that’s all it takes, the right mindset, the right thoughts.
About the author:
Sandhya Reddy is a leadership & transformation coach based in Bangalore, India. She is the Founder and Principal Coach at Chapter Two Coaching, a coaching consultancy that enables everyone from CEOs to work-from-home parents to achieve their goals by replacing self-imposed limitations with enabling stories.
Many of us in our thirties experience a disquieting realization: what brought us to middle-management may not take us to senior-management. This is true. To chart a new career path, one needs to think and do things differently. This is where Sandhya can help. She is a coach. Life coaching, executive coaching, business coaching, personality development, leadership coaching… they are all part of her forte. Her Executive coaching programs helps tomorrow’s leaders set new goals, make new plans to achieve those goals, get that elusive promotion through a blend of knowledge, action and image-building, enhance influence among the leadership team, be more productive, get more out of one’s team, and be known in the company as an indispensable performer and future leader.