11 Nov 2016

Ten things to do right to get your team to love you
They say people don’t leave their companies, they leave their managers. If that is true it means employees leave their jobs because they feel let down by their managers. Team members are tricky assets to manage. Sometimes, someone may seem alright from the outside. But on the inside, they may be struggling with issues. And they may be finding it hard to communicate these issues with y...

02 Nov 2016

Focus: A success story 10,000 hours in the making
The other day I went to a party where I met a lot of interesting though intimidating people. When asked about what they did, they invariably said at least three things.  “I am a writer, an actor, a wanderer and a romantic.” “I am the CEO of a start-up software company. I am also a theatre practitioner. I also run an NGO with my wife.” “I am part of an experimental learning organ...

26 Oct 2016

Chapter Two Blog - What to do when you hit rock bottom
We have all been in this situation. The shit has hit the fan. Our lives, personal and professional, are spiralling out of control. We feel little or no motivation to make it work. We may say that it is sudden and unfair. But sometimes, the truth is some of these incidents are predictable. We knew it was coming and either didn’t take note of it or didn’t take it seriously. All of a sud...

19 Oct 2016

It’s a fact. A lot of mothers find it hard to get back to work after a break. In her book Lean In, Sheryl Sandberg says, "43% of highly qualified women with children are leaving careers or off-ramping for a period of time." If we could put it all down to a strong maternal instinct, that would be OK. But it’s not just that. The socio-cultural landscape we live in doesn’t seem encouraging ...

06 Oct 2016

Do you over-react with colleagues and friends
The other day, one of my clients told me he had ‘screwed up.’ Apparently, he was in a chat window with one of his team members. He was unhappy with some work she had done. He typed the following sentence in the chat window: “This looks like something you copy pasted out of Wikipedia. It’s terrible.” The response from his team member, one of his most reliable workers, was immediate: su...

28 Sep 2016

The Importance of Investing in People Selectively
People are an important part of our lives. They broaden our minds, give us love and affection, and help us grow. But not everyone we meet is good for us. Some people seem to have little or no impact on our lives. And yet we continue to invest time in them. As a result, we veer away from our priorities. Why does this happen? It could be because we are lonely and crave attention. Or it cou...

21 Sep 2016

A way to feel psychologically relaxed
I have been finding it hard to explain to my mother what a life coach and executive coach does. I told her as a life coach I help people achieve their potential. What does that mean, she asked me. I told her it means I help my clients do better than what they are doing currently. My mother thought about that. Then she said, ‘If someone is well settled, why would they need a c...

07 Sep 2016

Work ethic beats talent
A friend came to me yesterday with a frustrated expression on his face. I asked him what was wrong. He said his business wasn’t doing so well. “People with half my talent are making twice as much as money,” he said, throwing his hands up in disgust. “But is that happening even after you’re doing all the right things?” I asked him. He didn’t have an answer to that. He just waved his hand ...

30 Aug 2016

The useful art of being alone
In our culture, being ‘lonely’ is frowned upon. Loneliness is not associated with happiness; on the contrary it is associated with illness or social ineptitude or both. The only people who seem to enjoy loneliness are poets, drunks and philosophers. For everyone else, loneliness is a state to be avoided, a diseased condition from which nothing good can arise. But is loneliness really suc...

23 Aug 2016

Towards more authenticity in one on one relationships
This is the third and final part of a blog series on authenticity. In the first blog we spoke of the definition and value of authenticity as a personality trait. In the second blog we spoke of how to maintain a degree of authenticity as a person and a professional. In this blog we’ll take a look at how to maintain authenticity in personal relationships. But first, what is the cost of not...