13 Jul 2015

Suspending the You on the conversation
We live in a culture that has created several bold, new ways of communicating but done very little in teaching people how to communicate. The proliferation of smart phones and social media networks has definitely made people communicate more frequently, more creatively and more unabashedly. But is it subsiding empathy, the uniquely human gift of walking in someone’s shoes? Why is empathy...

07 Jul 2015

A different room
Last week, most of my friends on Face book added the rainbow filter to show their support for marriage equality. I followed suit. I noticed very few of my friends did not change their profile pictures. How did my friends and I get so similarly oriented? It made me wonder: Did Facebook users actually influence their friends, or had they selected friends who already shared their views? ...

02 Jul 2015

Don't sweat the small stuff. Shoot the hostage.
  A hostage is a very powerful excuse a person uses to stop a problem from being solved. We all take hostages all the time, to justify our action or our inaction. ‘I would have been fit but I have a weakness for alcohol.’ ‘We could have made it work but she blew things out of proportion.’ ‘I am not a BD person or else we could have grown much faster in the last 6 month...

23 Jun 2015

Chapter Two Blog - Stay in the Ring
Like everyone else, I enjoy doing a lot of things. But I realised I needed one thing I could be exceptional in. I decided that would be coaching. I gave up a lot of passions like painting and baking to spend more time on coaching. This was a conscious decision. Yesterday I happened to meet a friend, the founder of a successful business venture. She is a recognized expert at what she d...

17 Jun 2015

The Someday Trap
Jack Ma’s company Alibaba debuted last week in the US stock market and raised about $25 billion. At about the same time, Ma, a former English teacher, said he was happy making $20 a day as a teacher when he graduated. He said those were ‘fantastic days.’ That leaves me with the question: What constitutes happiness? All my coaching engagements begin with a questionnaire and one of t...

09 Jun 2015

Chapter Two Blog - Success Algorithm
I meet a lot of people who have dreams but never seem to be in an execution mindset.   I hear sentences like these:  ‘I want to lose 5 kilos but…’ I want to save money for the vacation but...’ ‘I want to learn baking but…’ I find that when these people talk about their dreams, their eyes light up. But as soon as they speak the word ‘but’, their brains stop being resourcefu...

03 Jun 2015

Chapter Two Blog - The Power of Self-Efficacy
When faced with a challenge, how do you react? Do you feel helpless or do you feel empowered? How you feel depends on the rule book about yourself that you carry in your head. Psychologist Albert Bandura has defined self-efficacy as belief in one's ability to succeed in specific situations. One's sense of self-efficacy can play a major role in how one approaches goals, tasks, an...

26 May 2015

Chapter Two Blog - Plan B and Plan Z
Experience shows us that our best laid plans can fail. But fear of failure is not a reason to keep us from achieving our dreams. To reduce the fear of failure of Plan A, one needs to develop a Plan B. What’s plan B? Plan B, as we know already, is what you will follow if Plan A doesn’t occur. Plan B can also be a corrective action against Plan A. The trick is to have Plan B worke...

19 May 2015

Break it down: A simple guide to problem-solving
As a coach, I understand that whether a problem is big or small is a matter of perspective and personal strengths. Emotional intelligence and maturity can go a long way in helping some of us cope better with our problems. That said anyone can take better stock of what’s bothering them if they break it down. I like to think of the problem as a mountain and breaking it down involves whi...

14 May 2015

Tame your devil. Deal with the negative self-talk.
Imagine this. You’re considering switching jobs. One part of your brain is focused on all the great things about the new job. But another part of your brain is pulling you in a completely different direction. This part of your brain is raising alarms: What if this is a mistake? What if it doesn’t pan out? What happens when I’m out of a job? In other words, this part of your brain is floo...