11 Aug 2015

Lean into what's uncomfortable
Imagine this. You are in a bookshop. There are two books before you. The first is The Hobbit by JRR Tolkien and the second is 1Q84 by Haruki Murakami. Now let’s say you’re a huge Lord of the Rings fan. Obviously, the very sight of The Hobbit makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside. On the other hand, 1Q84 with its strange cover and even stranger premise (a city with two moons, huh?) is sedu...

04 Aug 2015

Optimists and Pessimists
If you’re an optimist, you’d probably read that and go, ‘Rubbish! I’ve always been able to achieve whatever I set my mind to!’ If you’re a pessimist, you’d probably say, ‘True. I’m never going to change, no matter what I do.’ Those two statements reveal the fundamental difference between optimists and pessimists. Optimists are generous with themselves while pessimists are hard o...

28 Jul 2015

Chapter Two Blog - Increasing your 'other' orientation
Rohit prided himself on being honest and straight forward, someone who always spoke his mind and did not indulge in small talk. He believed this kind of behavior made him an authentic person. However, when he learnt that people actually perceived him as ill-mannered and insensitive, he was surprised. The fact is reality doesn’t matter. Perception is reality. When someone is creative a...

21 Jul 2015

Find your lodestar priority
Recently I met a friend who told me he was very preoccupied. When I asked him what the problem was he unleashed a web of emotions: his business was experiencing a lot of volatility, he was worried about the future, his parents were getting on his nerves, his wife and he were experiencing friction in their marriage, etc. I told him, ‘Let’s list down all your problems and tackle them on...

13 Jul 2015

Suspending the You on the conversation
We live in a culture that has created several bold, new ways of communicating but done very little in teaching people how to communicate. The proliferation of smart phones and social media networks has definitely made people communicate more frequently, more creatively and more unabashedly. But is it subsiding empathy, the uniquely human gift of walking in someone’s shoes? Why is empathy...

07 Jul 2015

A different room
Last week, most of my friends on Face book added the rainbow filter to show their support for marriage equality. I followed suit. I noticed very few of my friends did not change their profile pictures. How did my friends and I get so similarly oriented? It made me wonder: Did Facebook users actually influence their friends, or had they selected friends who already shared their views? ...

02 Jul 2015

Don't sweat the small stuff. Shoot the hostage.
  A hostage is a very powerful excuse a person uses to stop a problem from being solved. We all take hostages all the time, to justify our action or our inaction. ‘I would have been fit but I have a weakness for alcohol.’ ‘We could have made it work but she blew things out of proportion.’ ‘I am not a BD person or else we could have grown much faster in the last 6 month...

23 Jun 2015

Chapter Two Blog - Stay in the Ring
Like everyone else, I enjoy doing a lot of things. But I realised I needed one thing I could be exceptional in. I decided that would be coaching. I gave up a lot of passions like painting and baking to spend more time on coaching. This was a conscious decision. Yesterday I happened to meet a friend, the founder of a successful business venture. She is a recognized expert at what she d...

17 Jun 2015

The Someday Trap
Jack Ma’s company Alibaba debuted last week in the US stock market and raised about $25 billion. At about the same time, Ma, a former English teacher, said he was happy making $20 a day as a teacher when he graduated. He said those were ‘fantastic days.’ That leaves me with the question: What constitutes happiness? All my coaching engagements begin with a questionnaire and one of t...

09 Jun 2015

Chapter Two Blog - Success Algorithm
I meet a lot of people who have dreams but never seem to be in an execution mindset.   I hear sentences like these:  ‘I want to lose 5 kilos but…’ I want to save money for the vacation but...’ ‘I want to learn baking but…’ I find that when these people talk about their dreams, their eyes light up. But as soon as they speak the word ‘but’, their brains stop being resourcefu...